If something scares a first-time father apart from the fact of what to do with that new package they have given you for home, it is the stage that goes from about two years to ... well, here experts say that until three or four years and according to my mother I am still in it.
The bad reputation of this stage comes more from how they are painted by those who have been going through it or have had it recently than by what it is in itself, that it is not that it is sewing and singing or that such fame is unfounded, but that as everything in life tends to see the bad above the good things that this stage has. Because really If there are good things in the terrible two.
At this stage, we are going to say, that your child's brain evolves in an incredible way, so what pokemon can we say that the baby so far, evolves as a child, your precious and very tyrant boy or girl.
The countries of the Shakespearean language have a specific name for this stage of development, "toddler" and I suppose it will be to let others know what is going to come to them. Here, for example, when booking a hotel we say something like this: we will go with two adults and two small children and only if we ask for cots can they get an idea of what is coming up, even though the phrase "small children" is something It triggers alarms in any hotel. But in England they would say something like: we will go two adults and two toddlers. Then you are diverted the call to the wildlife department.
The trees don't let us see the forest
We tend to keep the bad things of this time because they are really the ones that attract the most attention and in turn it is those behaviors that attract us the most because they are made specifically for it, to attract our attention to everything new they know how to do. Tantrums, the NO at all hours, wanting to do things that always come great, all have only one purpose, look what I am now able to do.
They have gone from being small beings that moved on all fours, or two with serious problems, to being able to run and move to the sites without too much trouble. This brings a handicap and is knowing where the limit is and a problem, that the limit is not in the head of our children but abroad. For a child there is nothing inside him that prevents him from going beyond where he should go, opening a drawer and spreading its contents around the house, running around the supermarket or taking the toys from the baby next to him in the park, He does all this for a simple reason, because now he can do it and not before.
The "I alone", I must admit, is one of the worst things that can happen if you go in a hurry. There is nothing that more despair than just when you go with the right time, your son decides that he dresses zolito, that already e mayó. You're going to be late and you know it. But that same situation, if we take away the context of lack of time, of hurries that in many cases are our fault, surely we drool when we see our son trying to put both legs through the same leg of the pants.
"I want," "it's mine," "it hurts."
After long months of not knowing what is happening to your baby, to intuit his feelings all day, he can communicate. It is worth it that at the beginning only his parents understand him and hardly, but little by little his sentences will improve and he will be able to explain what is happening to him.
Of course it was previously understood, but everything was limited to what I could point out and always very simple concepts, thirst, pee, damage, etc. Now, for example, you can tell us that your head hurts or that you want to play something specific, even if you don't see it.
This also brings the struggle for possessions, the act of "it's mine" that can now be reinforced with language. All this takes to the next level, independence.
The independence
All the advances that this development gives them lead to a common point that is their independence. Now they know how to get to the sites, every day they are able to do more things and are really good at imitating the behavior of the elderly. Before them opens a new world to explore and know, a wonderful world, that of your imagination.
Little by little they are able to enter their world and abstract from their surroundings, they can spend more time alone and without interacting with them.
The learning
One does not want a brain in full boil but it is to fill it with interesting things, and just as they quickly learn which is the aisle of the fries in the supermarket, they are also able to learn many other things such as colors, numbers and even more compositions. complex as some verses of a song or many of the phrases that we say and that unfortunately have not learned where to use them. Part of that learning is obtained from interacting with others equal to them through play.
Whatever happens, you can't miss this stage
Nobody is going to say that it is an easy stage, the tantrums and the continuous confrontations wear out a lot, but it is a stage of great and wonderful changes in which our tender baby is going to become a big child capable of interacting with us, of laughing by our side, to show us his love and of course, his character, but that is what we want not to have his character?
How were or were your terrible two years? As bad as they are painted?
