When it happens to you, the world falls on you and you think you are the only woman in the world to whom something so sad happens, but soon you realize that it is not so.
He spontaneous abortion It is much more common and common than we think. Attention to the data: more than 50% of the gestations do not reach term. I knew this when it happened to me, which calmed me a bit.
It is true that he is a very unpleasant experience, but at least my consolation was to accept that science and the body are wise and that if this happened for something it will have been.
The causes can be many, but obviously if the embryo has not been able to continue growing it is because it would have some defect incompatible with life. The body is not a perfectly perfect machine, but such things would not happen. Luckily in my case the abortion was so early (at the 7th week) that a curettage was not necessary, which I appreciate because the situation is already quite traumatic as to go through the operating room before total anesthesia.
I don't know if that's why, or because of my good mood at the time, I accepted it quite well despite being my first pregnancy.
According to my mother (who is almost always right) in her time it was not so much. It is not true: it did happen but some women did not even find out. The point is that today with home tests we can know at the 4th week if we are pregnant, but not before. Possibly, if I had not done the test a few days before or had learned.
Therefore, the only advice I can offer is to take it as sensibly as possible (I know it is not easy) and cope with it naturally, without drama or blame.
In case someone encourages, after the three months of rest recommended by my doctor, soon after I became pregnant again with my first daughter who is already almost 20 months. And happily now I am 12 weeks pregnant with the second.
I always think something that comforts me: if that had not happened to me, today my daughter would not exist. Exactly the genetic combination of ovule and sperm that gave rise to my daughter five months after the abortion would not have occurred. And I don't change it for anything.
