A few days ago we explained that babies of a few weeks and a few months are unable to manipulate their parents through crying. That is to say, they cry with a goal, because they need to be taken care of, but they don't do it thinking of submitting their parents neither for malice nor anything like that.
Bearing in mind then that when a baby cries something bothers him or something afflicts him our duty as parents is to try to make him calm again, satisfying his need. The most common is that he cries because of hunger, cold or heat, for having a dirty diaper (this is not so clear, but as they usually say, I will not be the one to remove it from the list), because of sleep and feeling alone or Boring, come on, for feeling lacking in affection and affection. Knowing the causes we have only to look for solutions and that is why today we will explain how to calm the baby's cry.
Calming his hunger
The most typical reason they cry is out of hunger. They eat often, very often, and that is why when they cry it is usually because of hunger. Sometimes they don't cry out of hunger, they cry because they feel lonely or bored. Then mom arrives, grabs him, puts it on his chest and shuts up because he hears, "I was very hungry, but I wanted to be taken and you have done it ... and since I am, like."
Checking the temperature
If it feels cold, or if we have overcoated it and it feels hot, or it is even sweating, you are likely to complain, be restless and, as a result, cry. The handyman are not very reliable when it comes to telling us what their temperature is, because many times they are fine and have them cold. The ideal is touch the neck area, even putting the finger towards the back.
If we notice it well of temperature we can choose to have him in his arms and, if we are the mother, to breastfeed him, that is why "let's see if he has hunger". If we notice it slightly damp and hot, one of two, or it is getting sick and has a fever or we have put on clothes and blankets. In that case I suggest put the thermometer and remove some clothes, valuing the temperature again after a while, since the shelters stop having tenths a few minutes later (ergo they are not bad).
Checking the diaper
I already say that you can have the kid screwed up and he usually doesn't tell you anything. They only cry if they have the previously irritated culete and the pee or poop bothers them. If all is well you can carry two kilos of urine in the diaper that does not complain, and poop, I would say the same. In any case, for hygiene and health, we check the diaper and if necessary we change it.
Dream?
He may also be crying from sleep. In that case it is suggested to choose to sleep, since he will rarely sleep alone. Yes, I know that there are books that recommend that you sleep alone, but that, in conditions, only a minority does. Most do it after crying for a while, and of course, if we are talking about how to calm the crying, it makes no sense to recommend letting the baby cry for him to sleep, so that he stops crying.
Within the "sleep" come all the usual recommendations, from giving the tit, which is usually a very effective method for combining eating, sucking, being in mom's arms, to rock while we sing a song, caress him a little or walk him in his arms. Typically, come on.
Calming crying when you need affection or affection
In addition to all the more or less physical needs discussed, babies also need to be with us, their parents. They don't like to be alone because they don't feel comfortable. They don't like it because in their survival kit there is nothing to teach them to fend for themselves with days or weeks of life, more to the contrary, they come with an alarm system ready to activate when they see themselves.
Our mission, then, is to pay attention to its alarm system to deactivate it with our parenting skills and so that, little by little, with our know-how, they will gain confidence and learn themselves (this is a matter of months and years ) to control that system. Come on, if we want our son to be able to take autonomy, to feel confident, safe, calm and to be able to face problems such as feeling unattended at some specific moment, what we have to do is attend to them when they are little to be them, then, those who take the reins of their decisions. Something like the typical and well-known phrase that says that "to be independent you must first be dependent".
To calm them the physical contact. In the same way that when a baby is born, skin-to-skin contact is recommended, when they grow they also need, or feel safe, if we are with them, if we have them in our arms, if we have them hugged, if we touch them, if we massage them , etc. They do it because with the contact their brains secrete oxytocin and thus the level of brain stress is controlled. Come on, like any adult, which is better when people who care hug and caress.
In addition, it is recommended take advantage of suction, a reflection that helps them to be calm and calm and, in addition, well fed. We have already said above that they can be offered the breast, but I say it again because babies do nutritive suction (they extract breast milk) but they also do non-nutritive suction, for which they suck, they are taken to the breast, but they are not swallowing anything . Another option is the use of a pacifier. It is also a good option, but without neglecting the other solutions, such as caring for the baby and giving it a human warmth. The pacifier is not recommended when the child is calm, to avoid crying, because then we will be using it as a silencer, as an element of prevention, and we will be getting used to it, without really needing it.
Finally, and although we have already commented on the theme of the dream, there is the rocking and cradling them. Maybe you already do it at the moment when you say "physical contact is recommended, I will take the child", because once in my arms, if he keeps crying, he already comes out of one, but just in case I explain it to you. Babies love rhythmic movements, in arms, when we move their bassinet or when they drive, probably because they should remind them of their time in the womb. Obviously, we must rock them with love, without too much force or speed because we can achieve the opposite effect, that it becomes scary, and if we do it too strongly, that we cause them some injury.
It is better prevent…
They say prevention is better than cure, so we may have less trouble calming babies' crying if we directly manage to cry less. This is achieved, above all, by eliminating risks. If they tend to cry for hunger and tend to cry for feeling alone, it is enough that we are attentive to the early signs of hunger (when they ask for food before they start crying) and it is enough not to leave them alone to get them to cry very little. This is take them with us, in contact, in backpack, in a scarf or in the way that seems most suitable to us. Thus, in an upright position, they have less stomach problems (which are usually called colic), they are less burdened, they are calmer, less stressed and, consequently, they cry less during the day and also cry less in the afternoon and for the night, which is when they are usually more nervous.
